Transitioning from States of Dependency to Self-Trust

by drlatoyadavis | Apr 3, 2024 | Living

Have you ever paused to think about how often we, as women, have been nudged to step back and let others take the lead? It’s like there’s this old tape playing in the background, telling us to trust others’ opinions more than our own. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are absolutely some spaces where I have absolutely no desire to take the lead (insert all forms of hard labor), but even in that if something doesn’t feel right to me, I will speak up. I recognize that I have a voice and it’s safe for me to use it. 

Today I am leaning into you trusting your own fabulous instincts. Shaking off those old deep-seated notions of dependency.

Throughout history, societal norms and expectations have often cast women in roles that foster dependence, whether consciously or subconsciously. From being encouraged to defer to others’ judgments to embodying roles that limit personal growth and self-reliance, women have navigated a landscape full of messages that undermine our autonomy. 

It was almost like women had this invisible script: Be dependent, don’t ask too many questions, marry this person, and stick to the background. Whether it was in our homes, at work, or just about anywhere else, the message was clear—making choices for ourself was not the go-to look for us. But we’ve come a long way since then, right? Now we’re smashing glass ceilings, leading boardrooms, and making our voices heard. However, shedding the ingrained tendencies toward abdicating decision making responsibility can still be a significant challenge for many women.

Recognizing Dependency Patterns:

The first step toward embracing autonomy is recognizing the various forms of dependency that can show up. This could include financial dependency, seeking validation or decision-making approval from others, or emotional dependency in relationships. By identifying these patterns, you can begin to understand the underlying beliefs and behaviors that perpetuate dependency.

Building That Self-Trust Muscle:

1. Get to Know You: Take time for introspection and to really understand your values, beliefs, and aspirations. Journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices can be effective tools for developing a deeper self-connection.
2. Question Those Doubts: Many dependency habits are rooted in self-doubt and limiting beliefs about your capabilities. By identifying and challenging these beliefs, you can start to shift your mindset toward one of trusting your own decisions.
3. Develop Decision-Making Skills: Practice making small decisions on your own and gradually increase the stakes as your confidence grows. This can help build trust in your judgment and reduce the impulse to seek external validation. Start small. It’s all about building that trust from following your own advice.
4. Seek Supportive Communities: Surround yourself with folks who get it, who cheer on your independence, and who inspire you to be your most authentic self.  (YAY, CHI Community)
5. Celebrate You: Acknowledge and celebrate your steps toward soul-inspired decision-making, no matter how small. This reinforces positive behavior and bolsters self-confidence.

Embarking on this journey from needing outside validation to trusting yourself is like embracing a whole new adventure. It’s about being patient and kind to yourself as you grow and flourish. 

In my work, I’m passionate about helping you discern whether you’re acting out of old habits or true to your soul’s calling. This includes identifying if societal, ancestral, or deep-seated conditioning is holding you back. Interested in exploring more? Consider booking a 30 or 45-minute Akashic Record session with me, or join our 6-Week Self-Mastery and Empowerment Group!

Here’s to making your own path and trusting in the magic of your decisions. You’ve got this, and remember, in this community, I’m all about you

Unlocking the Power of Ancestral Healing: A Journey to Liberation

by drlatoyadavis | Apr 3, 2024 | Living

“Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.“

― Maya Angelou, Excerpt from Still I Rise

In the fabric of our being, woven into the very DNA that gives us life, lies a tapestry rich with the stories, dreams, struggles, and triumphs of those who came before us. Our ancestors. Though they may no longer walk this earth, their influence permeates aspects of our lives, shaping our beliefs, behaviors, and the patterns that unfold in our personal and professional worlds.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself are my ancestors contributing to my narrative the most powerful and impactful way possible or are they creating blockages and limitations? For most of us, if we do ask ourselves this question, the answer is the latter.

This is where Ancestral Healing plays a pivotal role.

The Essence of Ancestral Healing

Ancestral healing recognizes that we are the sum of many generations. It’s an acknowledgment that our ancestors’ unresolved issues, traumas, and unfulfilled dreams do not simply vanish with their physical departure. Instead, they echo down through generations, manifesting in our lives in ways we may not fully understand—patterns of behavior, emotional responses, and even physical conditions that seem to defy explanation.

Engaging in ancestral healing work is a transformative process that allows us to identify, confront, and heal these inherited patterns. It’s about honoring our ancestors’ experiences, learning from their wisdom, and resolving the traumas that have been passed down, so we can stop the cycle and not pass it on to future generations.

Benefits of Ancestral Healing

Deepened Self-Awareness: Delving into ancestral healing illuminates the roots of our deepest fears, challenges, and limitations. It offers clarity on why we are the way we are, deepening our self-awareness and fostering self-acceptance.

Transformed Generational Patterns: By confronting and healing these inherited patterns, we not only liberate ourselves but also ensure that these cycles do not continue with our descendants. This transformation allows for healthier family dynamics and personal relationships.

Enhanced Physical and Emotional Well-being: Ancestral healing can lead to profound emotional and physical healing. Understanding the ancestral origins of certain maladies or emotional burdens can be the key to overcoming them.

Empowerment and Fulfillment: Through ancestral healing, we reclaim our power to shape our destiny. Liberated from the chains of the past, we can move forward with confidence, purpose, and joy, creating a life that resonates with our truest selves.

Embarking on Your Ancestral Healing Journey

The journey into ancestral healing is as unique as the individual undertaking it. It may involve genealogical research, engaging with traditional healing practices, meditation, and guided visualization, among other modalities. The key is to approach this work with an open heart, patience, and a willingness to face whatever comes with courage and compassion.

For those ready to embark on this transformative path, programs like My Ancestors’ Keeper offer a guided, supportive experience. Structured programs can provide the tools, knowledge, and community support necessary to navigate the complexities of ancestral healing. If you are not ready for a program, you can use your own personal connection and guidance through the tools listed above. Just be intentional and trust the process.

Ancestral healing is more than just a journey into the past; it’s a path to a brighter, more liberated future. It offers a profound opportunity to heal not just ourselves but the generations that came before us and those that will follow. In doing so, we create a legacy of healing, empowerment, and joy that will ripple through time.

As we open ourselves to the wisdom and strength of our ancestors, we find not only the keys to our own liberation but also the promise of a future unburdened by the past. This is the gift of ancestral healing—a journey of discovery, transformation, and, ultimately, homecoming.

FEBRUARY’s AFFIRMATIONS

These affirmations are centered around calling forth the strength of the ancestral lineage. Find the ones that resonate with you and repeat daily.

• I honor my ancestors by living my life with purpose, courage, and joy.
• I am a bridge between my ancestors’ dreams and my descendants’ futures.
• With each step I take in healing, I release generational patterns of pain and embrace cycles of joy and abundance.
• I welcome the lessons of the past, knowing they are stepping stones to my liberation and growth.
• I trust that everything unfolds in perfect timing.
• I align my thoughts, words, and actions with my intentions, knowing that I have the power to manifest my dreams into reality.
• My heart is open to the healing energies of my lineage.
• I am a powerful creator, infused with the courage and wisdom of my ancestors. 

CRYSTAL OF THE MONTH

Black Obsidian creates a bridge to the past, including past lives and ancestral lines, allowing for healing, understanding, and the clearing of negative patterns. Its reflective surface acts as a mirror to one’s soul, revealing insights and truths and facilitating the journey into the ancestral realm.

Call in Greatness: Embrace Your True Potential

by drlatoyadavis | Jan 23, 2024 | Living

“You can only become great at that thing you’re willing to sacrifice for.” – Maya Angelou

As people on a transformative journey, we often find ourselves at crossroads, asking, “Is this all I am? Is this all I can be?” If you are here in the CHI Healing Community where we are always promoting ways to live a soul-led life, the answer is an emphatic NO. Each one of us carries within us the power, the energy, and the ancestral wisdom to call in greatness. So, let’s embark on this journey together, to not just find but embody our most authentic selves.

1. Release the Chains: Let Go of Limiting Beliefs
The first step to calling in greatness is recognizing and releasing those limiting beliefs that keep you tethered to a smaller version of yourself. These are often societal constructs or past experiences that have convinced you that you’re not ‘enough’. Remember, these beliefs do not define you. They are merely stories you’ve been told, and it’s time to rewrite them. I urge you to dissect these beliefs, question their origins, and consciously choose to let them go.

2. Define Your Greatness
Greatness is subjective. What is great for one person might not be for another. So, take a moment to reflect: What does greatness look like to you? Is it financial independence? Emotional strength? Being an impactful leader? Write down your definition and let it be your compass. This clarity will guide your path and actions.

3. Tune into the Frequency of Greatness
Everything in the universe, including our thoughts and intentions, has an energetic frequency. When you operate from a space of self-doubt, you align with lower frequencies. However, by visualizing your greatness, feeling its essence, and immersing in its energy, you can raise your vibrational frequency. This alignment with the energy of greatness will naturally attract opportunities and resources that resonate with it.

The Law of Authenticity states that our most genuine self is our most potent self. Your thoughts, intentions, and actions send out ripples into the cosmos, attracting energies and opportunities that match your frequency. When you shed societal masks and embrace your true essence, you naturally call in greatness.

4. Request Ancestral Support: Your Lineage of Greatness
Your ancestors are not just a part of your past; they are the pillars upon which you stand. Many of them have lived lives of immense courage, wisdom, and, yes, greatness. By connecting with them, understanding their struggles and triumphs, you can draw strength and inspiration. This connection serves as a reminder that greatness is in your DNA. Rituals, meditation, or simply conversing with them in solitude can fortify this bond.

5. Take Action: Everyday Greatness
Greatness isn’t just about those big moments; it’s about the daily choices you make. From standing up for yourself, pursuing passions, to even the simple act of self-care, every decision should be a reflection of the great woman you are and aim to be.

Here’s to a life of purpose, power, and unparalleled greatness!

JANUARY AFFIRMATIONS

These affirmations are centered around embracing your true potential. Find the ones that resonate with you and repeat daily.

• I am capable of achieving greatness in my own unique way.
• Every day, I release limiting beliefs and step closer to my true potential.
• I am a conduit of ancestral wisdom and strength, guiding me towards greatness.
• I trust in the journey of becoming my most authentic self.
• I am aligned with the frequency of greatness, attracting opportunities that resonate with my highest self.
• I embrace the courage and wisdom of my ancestors, and it empowers me.
• I am deserving of greatness and all the abundance it brings.
• My greatness is not defined by others’ standards, but by my own authentic aspirations.
• I radiate confidence and strength.
• I am in harmony with my true self, and this alignment brings forth greatness.

ACTIVITY OF THE MONTH

This month, let’s get to journaling. If writing isn’t your thing, no worries. You can use voice memos and create an audio journal. The larger point is to create a space where you can reflect, share, and be open with yourself without judgement.

Before beginning, simply ask your Soul self to step forward and answer the questions in truth and light. Take a deep breath and dive in.

JOURNAL PROMPTS

1. What does greatness mean to you?

2. What limiting beliefs are you letting go of?

3. What are your intentions and goals that align with your personal definition of greatness?

Try to revisit these questions at least 3 times. You can get more clarity and greater depth each time you ask your Soul self to answer these questions for you.